In July, I picked up and moved to Fort Worth. I gave myself a couple of months to get settled in and now, I’m itching to get back to work. I wanted to revamp my business a bit, and I was looking for new ideas.
To get my creative juices flowing, I went to the library. I saw a book by Evan Carmichael titled Your One Word, The Powerful Secret to Creating a Business and Life That Matters.
I was immediately intrigued.
The title reminded me of the scene in “City Slickers” where Jack Palance was telling Billy Crystal about the secret of life. “One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and everything else don’t mean s&*#.”
I’m always up for learning something new, so I checked out the book. It was a wonderful read.
Basically, it walks you through a series of questions to help you determine what’s important to you and what makes you happy. It also shows some excellent examples of how others use their one word in business and in life.
The best thing is that your word – whatever it is – can be interpreted however you want. It’s there as your reminder, your personal motto, for how you’re showing up in the world.
I know some of you are thinking, “One word to define me? Oh, puh-leeze! I’m much more complex than that.”
If that’s running around in your head, I have to ask: Do you have a tendency to overcomplicate things? Trust me, once you discover your one word, it’s the opposite of complicated. It’s simple. And that’s the beauty of it.
As I worked through the questions, I realized so many of my answers were around a central theme: authenticity. With God. With myself. With others.
I like it when things are real, when we hit that point in our relationship where the facades are dropped and we’re free to be ourselves. It’s a nice little moment of “ahhh, this feels right.”
Personally, I can’t do inauthentic in relationships. When I feel someone is pretending, I know we’ll never be true friends. We may hang out occasionally, but it takes a brave soul to be honest and vulnerable. I’m honored to call a handful of those brave souls my closest friends. Having them in my life makes me feel I hit the jackpot of blessings that I truly don’t deserve.
Relationships are our lifeblood. They bring joy to the everyday, to the routine of life. Without them, it would feel like we’re simply going from one task to another, from one activity to the next. How boring would that be?!
So doing Real and Honest and True in my relationships has become a priority for me. It hasn’t always been that way. But after some intense personal growth courses and examination, along with a little therapy, I feel I’m finally comfortable simply being who I am and making space for others to do the same.
My One Word
That’s my one word. It’s now my motto, my mantra and my exceptionally short manifesto, personally and professionally.
I apply it in all sorts of situations, from determining if I’m being #True to myself to helping my clients stay #True to their brand and their organizational goals.
Staying #True is the only way for me to fully enjoy life. My mission and ministry are to encourage others to stay #True to themselves, to be brave and go after their dreams, and to live intentional, hopeful lives of excellence.
Do I hit the mark every time? Nope. But that’s okay. I’m giving my best every day, and my one word helps me stay focused on what matters.
It helps ground me.
It gently encourages me to “come home” if I’ve gotten distracted or wandered off a bit.
It reminds me that being #True to myself means running into the arms of Jesus and reveling in that refreshing peace that many search for, yet find elusive. And that’s the thing that keeps me living in joy and hope every day.
Does being #True mean I can say or do whatever I want? Nope.
Because no matter what your one word is, it doesn’t mean you can be a jerk to people or do anything you want because “that’s just the way I am.” If that’s the case, you may want to try being someone else, preferably a better person.
So #True rings true for me. But what about you? The list of options is unlimited.
Now, don’t just look at the list of words above and randomly pick one. You’re better than that, and you know it. Invest in yourself. Invest some time to read or listen to the book so you can fully discover your one word.
Then connect with me on my Facebook page – I’d love to hear what your one word is and why it represents you so well.
Be #True, and have a Refreshing and Productive Day!