Stop, Breathe And Let Go To Get Midlife Clarity And New Perspective For Your Future

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Hey there, Easy Ager. Today, we're talking about getting midlife clarity and new perspective for your future. Now I talk to y'all regularly about getting clarity on who you are and what you want in midlife. And that is so important. It is so incredibly important that I've even made it the second step in my three-part proprietary process.

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If you're new here, that process is called the ACE Approach, which stands for awareness, clarity, and ease. These are the three steps you can take to figure out a few things in midlife, like rediscovering who you are now that you've become an empty nester.

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Or figuring out what direction you're going to take once you retire. Or how to make sure you're taking care of yourself so you can turn around and care for an aging parent.

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I created this process and I follow it regularly. And I figured out that the more I use it, the better I get at using it, because it helps me become more in tune with the ins and outs of me: who I am, what I want, where I'm going, what's next for me.

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Granted, prayer and meditation are the primary pieces to figuring myself out but this process aids significantly in my desire to be aware of what's going on inside of me.

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So when things feel a little off, when it feels like I need to reflect or step back to get new perspective, I do that. And I do it immediately. These days, I do not wait around. I do not delay. I just take an action so I can regroup as quickly as possible.

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I will be the first to admit that previously, not so much. In the past, I would get that gnawing feeling and what would I do? I would ignore it. And then I'd ignore it some more and I'd keep pretending it wasn't there. And I would just ignore it and ignore it.

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And then when that didn't work, when I finally had to face up to it, then I would try to fix it. This meant I would work harder and faster and more hours. And I was going to bend this to my will, and I was going to force it and I would make it work for me.

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I'd run around in circles like a chicken with my head cut off because I wanted to make it feel better and I wanted to make this work for me. And then I'd be exhausted, and I couldn't even think straight because I was so tired.

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When I got that tired, I would finally — finally — surrender it to God saying, "All right, I give up. I can't do this. You take it, I'm out. You do it. You do your thing." And once that happened, the right answer would generally pop up fairly soon, fairly quickly after that.

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All I had to do was just surrender to it. All I had to do was stop, take a deep breath, let go, and just relax. Because once I relaxed, I could see things more clearly. I could get new perspective. I could figure out what was supposed to happen next. I could figure out the next right step for me.

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Right now, I'm getting that gnawing feeling again. Something doesn't feel completely off or anything...yet. But I know myself well enough to know that if I don't create some space to figure a few things out, I will be driving myself crazy in a week or two. That's just the way it is with me.

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Right now it feels like God is calling me to get clarity on a few things, from upcoming podcast topics and guests I wanna interview for y'all, and the online course that I'm creating for you.

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All that, to say, I'm going to take a couple of weeks to figure a few things out and to get some clarity for myself. I'll be back at the beginning of August, but I just wanted to let you know I was taking a little break.

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In the meantime, you can go back and listen to some of your favorite episodes and start thinking about what you want for the rest of this year and in 2023. I know you're probably thinking it's too early but let me tell you, it's never too early to start thinking about your future.

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Especially if you have a little spare time on your hands, whether you're traveling or you're visiting your family, or you're even lying in a floaty in the pool on a hot summer day.

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What do you want? Are you content with where you are right now? And if not, why not?

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These are the types of questions you can start percolating on now so you, too, can start getting crystal clear on what's next for you. So I'll leave you with that.

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I'll see you in a couple of weeks and until next time, peace, love and blessings to you and yours. Take care. Bye-bye!