Episode 29 | (00:00):
Hey there, friend... Do you wanna know the quickest way to upgrade your life with a new quality or two? Well, you can do it in just two minutes a day. Yeah, you heard me right. I said two — count 'em, one, two — minutes a day.
In just those two little minutes every day, you can start stepping into a new quality, something like lightheartedness or kindness or peace, maybe you wanna become a more peaceful person. You can do all that in just two little ol' minutes a day. And I'm gonna tell you right after the music finishes. All right, here we go!
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So I'm going to take us back a little bit to episode 22 and 23 where I talked about visualization and I talked about the important role the subconscious mind plays in helping you get where want to be.
You know, we all want to be better versions of ourselves. We wanna live better lives. We want to start moving in a new direction and just not have to deal with some of our ick, right?
One of the ways you can do that is to simply start thinking about yourself as the person who has the qualities that you want to step into. You know, think about the mindset that this person has, because someone with those qualities that you want has a certain way of looking at life and has a certain way of thinking about things, right?
For example, I talked about this in the previous episodes but for me, I wanted to step out of my scarcity mindset and I wanted to start living in a abundance. I was that person who was always looking over my shoulder, and I was expecting the worst thing to happen.
And when you do that often enough, it's going to become a habit, a very bad habit that does not benefit you in any way. Because every single time I started getting close to what I wanted, I would self-sabotage. I can confidently say that at least a good 99.9% of the time, I would self-sabotage and I would fall short of what I was trying to achieve.
In episode 23, I talked about how your subconscious is running the show and all it knows how to say is, "Okay." Whatever you tell your subconscious, it's just gonna say, "Okay" and it's gonna do everything in its power to make that happen.
That's why it is so important that you don't say things like, "Ugh, why am I so stupid? Oh, I'm such a loser." I heard a new one the other day. I thought, "Ooh, don't say that. Don't say that!" And it was "making a lot of money isn't important to me."
Are you kidding me? You're never gonna make any money if you say "making a lot of money isn't important to me." Because guess what? Your subconscious just heard you say that, and it's gonna do everything in its power to make sure that happens, right?
We should be saying things to ourselves like, "I always have more than enough money to live on. I have more than enough time, more than enough energy, more than enough money to live the life that I want."
Okay, so back to my story. When I said I wanna step out of the scarcity mindset and I wanna move into abundance, I started asking myself, "What would she do?...
What would that woman who has that abundant mindset, who just thrives and prospers at every single thing she does, that woman who walks in the room always expecting the best of everything and everyone, what would she do?"
So I started thinking about this, and then I went a little deeper. Okay. "What are her thoughts? How does she go about her day? How does she approach difficult things?"
Now you guys know I'm a practicing Christian, so I prayed about this so much. I asked God for wisdom and clarity on her mindset, on understanding her thoughts and figuring out where she was coming from because I was so clueless. I didn't even know what that looked like. I gotta be honest, I didn't have a clue.
I journaled about it. I did mindmaps, and I really spent some time figuring all this stuff out. As I was going along, something would come up to push me into scarcity mindset. And it wasn't even something financial, you know, because back then I was pretty stingy with my time too.
But something would come up and I would immediately start going to that place, that habitual place that I went to, and then I would catch myself. I'd notice my thoughts and I'd go, "No, no, no. We know what this is. No, no, just apply the new thought, Michelle."
So I started applying the new thought, and here's the deal: because I had spent a little time creating this woman, creating her mindset, understanding her thoughts, understanding where she was coming from, because I had spent a little bit of time doing that, it was fairly easy and fairly quick for me to replace my habitual thought with one of her thoughts.
And I didn't just replace it and move on with my day. I would replace it and I'd think about it. I would experience it and go, "How does this feel to be thinking like this?" and really take a moment.
And because this woman had this abundant mindset, she naturally just moved to a place of generosity. I hadn't even thought of that.
I mean, yes, she was financially generous, but she was also so generous with her time and with her relationships. She made space for other people to be heard and to be listened to.
As I started stepping into both of these qualities, I now look back and think, "Wow, doing this made me a better listener. It made me a better friend. It made me a better daughter and a sister and a niece."
I think overall, it just made me a better person, a much more positive and more optimistic person because I was coming to life with an abundant mindset. I was understanding that, "You know what? If you run out of something — money, time, energy — it's okay because you can always get more."
God didn't create us to live in scarcity. He created us to live in abundance. Even in the Bible, Jesus says,"I came that they may have life and have it abundantly, and have it to the full." That's the way God intended it to be.
I'm the one that's taking away from myself. I'm the one that's subtracting from myself. So doing this exercise helped me have a better picture of what it was supposed to look like. And it helped that verse really come home with me, it helped me realize I am called to live in abundance, to have an abundant mindset.
I'm talking a lot about abundance because that's my, you know, thing, but you can do this exercise with any quality you want — confidence, courage, thoughtfulness. Maybe you wanna be a more thoughtful person.
All you're going to do is figure out, "What quality do I wanna step into?" You don't wanna do 17 or 20. I want you to do one quality at a time. Remember fun-sized actions, small actions that we do on a daily basis. Figure out that quality and think, "What would she do?" or "What would he do?"
What would that person who has this quality do? How would they behave? How would they think? What kind of thoughts would they have? How would they approach life? What is their viewpoint on life?
Just ask yourself these questions and document it. You can write it down in a journal or you can record your voice on your phone. Don't analyze it, just say what's from your heart. Then, go back later and listen to or read what you said because your first thoughts are your best thoughts.
You already know what having this quality entails. Now you just need to create some space in your life to explore what it looks like, how it feels. And let me tell you, understanding how it feels to approach life with that quality plays a huge role in starting to embrace that quality.
Your emotions are really important in all of this. Your emotions are what make all of this real for you.
The more time you spend thinking about and exploring this particular quality that you want to have, the deeper it's going to go within you and the easier time you are going to have accessing it whenever you need it.
So that's pretty much it for today. Pretty simple, huh? Simple, but will you do it? That's the big question.
So figure out the quality, spend some time with it and really start thinking about what that quality could mean in your life. I mean, how could it change your life? How crazy is that, right?
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